Sleep

I need ~10 hours. I almost never sleep later than 12.30. I am not super disturbed by things like snoring or sounds as long as I have earplugs. I am comfortable wearing them. Same goes for an eyemask - although bright lights is too much.

Lack of sleep is disastrous for me. I can function - to the point of driving 10+ hour shifts on 3 hour of sleep - but it’s really bad for my trauma (it accelerates it and I need significant extended alone time (1-2 days) to process properly and get back into a supportive rhythm).

I’ve had insomnia and panic attacks related to (lack of) sleep in the past.

I can sleep together in the same double bed. Not in a single. Only if i’m extremely tired can I fall asleep while cuddling (happened 2-3 times in my life).

Food

I eat pretty much anything except popcorn. I tend to lean towards vegetarianism but it’s not very important to me.

If I have coffee, raisins and enough healthy food I’m good for a while.

Movement

Need at least 30 mins of stretching each day.

Meditation

I need about 1.5 hour each day. I usually want to be alone - though sometimes I warmly welcome (a) partner(s).

Alone time

I need quite a lot, but it’s also very dependent on who I’m with.

Creativity

I have a need to express myself creatively and will do it in very creative ways :D

Sex

I like slow, present sexual practices. I also like to just fulfill the need sometimes. I like to be creative with it. I like authenticity & honesty. My drive is not super high but not low either.

Sovereignty

This one is really strong in me.

Support

To really listen to me without judgement and accepting my (far-from-society) reality. To accept me there and let that be. And then, only then perhaps there is some advice or support :)

Cuddling

I love to cuddle like an hour every day. I really like quite static cuddling and completely surrendering my nervous system together with another person. I do like being explicit about needs & position of cuddling and these kind of things so all the good stuff is maximised.