Last updated: May ‘26
The type of massage exchange I usually do with members of the MenInTouch community.
I like to have a small walk or a tea first[5-10 minutes].
ℹ️Meta
I’m happy to modify the container to suit our specific relationship. Preferably before. Please let me know your preferences & boundaries. This document is alive, contains mistakes and will change over time. I need to kinda do this practice a lot to understand it better and define the container better :)
🫙Container
I like 30min each, or 2x20min each [front and back]. The massage is a playground for exploring. Relaxing long strokes, a nice kneading. Using different body parts to massage. Whatever arises in the moment. I like silence but am not opposed to occasional verbal sharing to increase the quality of the massage.
🌸 Sexuality
Unless otherwise discussed, I assume the massage is completely platonic. This is an intimate practice - sexual activation is normal. I breathe, pause or stop depending on the level of activation. I expect you to do the same.
If you do have a wish to integrate sexuality into the massage somehow - I am okay with you bringing it up (preferably before the massage). I need you to be explicit and verbal about what you want - I get repelled by vague implicit energies and will likely stop the massage if this happens.
I won’t bring up anything sexual unless you tell me you are okay with me bringing it up.
❗Boundaries
✅ Naked massage.
✅ Light sensual touch if it comes from a place of care.
⛔ Genital touch.
⛔ Sensual touch if it comes from a place of sexual activation.
⛔ Touch with excessive force.
🦖 Preferences / Nice-to-know
- I’m okay with music.
- I prefer giving massage while (partly) sitting on you on a yoga mat / mattress on the floor.
- I prefer outside in nature. Open to host or to be hosted.
- I like if the giver uses a lot of oil.
- I have quite a few towels.
- I did about 50 exchanges in my life.
- I live in Amsterdam and kind of need the massage to be logistically feasible.
- I generally don’t like (small) talk while either giving or receiving. This is because it takes me 10 minutes or so to even start feeling my body and any verbal cue takes me away from this focus and I have to start over again. Ofcourse functional talk & boundary establishment are still welcome.