Last update: 10th of June 2026

ℹ️Meta

I’m happy to modify the container to suit our specific relationship. Preferably before the practice. Please let me know your preferences & boundaries. This document is alive, contains mistakes and will change over time. I need to kinda do this practice a lot to understand it better and define the container better :)

🫙 Somatic Touch Healing

✨ Actually zero expectations
✨ Silent
✨ Set amount of time [default=30mins]
✨ Both giver and receiver are invited into presence & open to not knowing.
✨ Touch can be any kind of touch / massage within the boundaries.
✨ Receiver can state what they would love to receive at the start - but the giver is not obliged to adhere to it.

Possible modifications sky’s the limit

⚙️ Include verbal sharing from either the giver, receiver or both.

Why?

• There is an enormous touch-scarcity in the world. This is a no-experience-needed practice for touch.
• The touch that I most like to receive is touch where the giver is deeply present with both themselves and with me. In particular I like the giver to feel into the physically stored partition of my traumas and explore if it is possible to relieve them through external care. This is only possible through deep presence & attunement.
• Zero expectations means we create a practice space for touch. I believe we need more practice spaces than performance spaces. There are social expectations around touch / massage - and this framework provides the safety to drop those.
• The touch can be for the giver, for the receiver. But in this practice, the touch is likely to serve both.

🌸 Sexuality

Unless otherwise discussed, I assume the massage is completely platonic. This can be an intimate practice - sexual activation is normal. I breathe, pause or stop depending on the level of activation. I expect you to do the same.

❗Boundaries

✅ Naked massage.
✅ Light sensual touch if it comes from a place of care.
✅ Sitting on me.
⛔ Genital touch.
⛔ Sensual touch if it comes from a place of sexual activation.
⛔ Touch with excessive force.

🦖 Preferences / Nice-to-know

• I’m okay with music.
• I prefer giving massage/touch while (partly) sitting on you on a yoga mat / mattress on the floor.
• I prefer outside in nature. Open to host or to be hosted.
• I like if the giver uses a lot of oil.
• I have quite a few towels.
• I did about 50 exchanges in my life.
• I live in Amsterdam and kind of need the massage/touch to be logistically feasible.
• I generally don’t like (small) talk while either giving or receiving. This is because it takes me 10 minutes or so to even start feeling my body and any verbal cue takes me away from this focus and I have to start over again. Ofcourse functional talk & boundary establishment are still welcome.