My definitions for terms or concepts I often refer to.

Non-duality: I usually use it as a term to express the validity of being present (in a practical way) with (apparent) paradoxes.

Being myself but also being everyone else.

Resentment: Any negative emotion ranging from small frustration to anger. Intensity of the resentment is indicated by adjectives, tone of voice and context. It’s usually about me, but not always. I express them in relationship to be transparent about my emotional energy. I don’t expect a change in behavior from either me or the other by expressing it. If held well, I think the resentment is an amazing tool for connection. It can provide clarity, combat people pleasing dynamics and reveal valuable relationship insight.

Example where I tell my roommate: “I resent you for not doing the dishes.” It could be about me (I have an implicit expectation for the roommate to do the dishes which I haven’t made into a conscious agreement). It could be about the roommate (there was an agreement that they would do the dishes). It could reveal some valuable relationship insight (the roommate thought I loved doing the dishes and while he also loves doing them, left them for me thinking he was giving me a gift). It can simply discharge the emotional energy (without searching for the reason - the resentment is now in the ‘field’ and I can stop building it up).

“I resent you for being a man, being young, being fit etc…” are also valid & awesome resentments (being instead of doing) to be brought into the field IMO.

Trauma: I usually use it as an umbrella term for individual, collective or (inter)generational trauma.

I would call my events trauma-informed. That means that I’m aware of the influence of my individual trauma on how I host. But also that I’ve read books on intergenerational trauma and have incorporated some of the insights of those books into how I host. And perhaps also that I get how family trauma gets into spaces to a certain degree. It’s usually not necessarily needed to figure out which one it is exactly and the general term is enough. Let’s have a JPC on what trauma is?

Open to not knowing: People often need a rational ‘why’ to do something. I often do things when I only have an energetic why (the voice of my heart) or even when I am in the void (usually when I feel potential for creation of suffering is where I draw the line for open to not knowing). I also use it when there is an apparent paradox that I don’t get yet and I explore it from the viewpoint of open to not knowing.