My core beliefs.
- I am open to the possibility that all my beliefs could be wrong, including these core beliefs.
- I think almost anything in life can be seen as a range (of ranges), and that the classification into dichotomes or categories that we tend to do as humans only serves the purpose of being able to ‘get stuff done’ or to connect with each other without getting lost in a theoretical / philosophical void. This belief is useful to me when either me or someone else gets stuck - there’s probably a dichotome/categorial belief one needs to see as range in order to progress. This belief also allows me to hold apparent paradoxes.
Consider a common question. ‘Are you guys together?’ You could consider this a dichotome yes / no. But if you see it as range of ranges, there is so much here. What does being together mean? Why does the person asking the question ask this question? How do I want to respond to it, given context? Do I answer with verbal truth or do I answer to emotionally convey? What are the implicit expectations here? What happens if we focus on presence? We can say yes or no - and either can mean a whole range of things.
- There is a huge collective trauma in the world and most people are not willing to admit it because of fear. I find love only after the radical acceptance of this trauma and I am deeply questioning love that does not come with this acceptance. I also am aware of my own trauma bias and hope that I truly consider other lenses.
Some more ‘side’ beliefs (that kind of sprout from my core beliefs):
- Rational understanding must be aligned with embodied understanding.
- There is no way to ‘solve’ all the suffering in the world (there will always be diseases for example). I believe there is a way to significantly lessen the unneccessary suffering however.
What else?
- I often take decisions based on my heart.
- I don’t know what love is - but I know what it is when I feel it.
- Radical acceptance is one of the bricks that make up my foundation. I think I’m quite far - but also still 10% in denial (which might mean my entire structure might collapse when I move past this denial).
- Authenticity is being real to myself and to the other (it becomes different when in relation, and because I’m almost always in relation - authenticity while in relation is usually what I’d be practicing). I guess when I’m completely alone in nature there is a different flavor to it. It definetely always means to not fake anything to myself.
- It can be hard to see the humility that comes from my radical acceptance.