Last updated: May ‘26
Hello :) This is a type of massage exchange I’d be very interested in exploring!
ℹ️Meta
I’m happy to modify the container to suit our specific relationship. Preferably before. Please let me know your preferences & boundaries. This document is alive, contains mistakes and will change over time. I need to kinda do this practice a lot to understand it better and define the container better :)
🫙Container
A massage with a giver and a receiver. Massage without expectations for set amount of time [30 mins]. The giver is free to do as they want within both their and the receiver’s boundaries.
✨ A practice for the giver to drop any social pressure on giving a ‘good’ massage. No expectations mean no expectations - the giver is free to just put their hands on the receiver’s body and be still for half an hour.
✨ A sustainable practice: being free of expectations, the giver is able to give from a place of overflow.
✨ A possibility for the giver to reach a state of unconditional care for the receiver and massage from that place.
✨ An opportunity for deep listening, to both self and the other. An opportunity for deep nervous system relaxation.
✨ Massage and touch are scarce in this world - let’s try to acknowledge & allow the pain of that scarcity and move towards abundance.
✨ A start for building a massage relationship & deepen / modify the container to specific needs.
Possible modifications sky’s the limit
⚙️ The receiver states their wishes & desires at the start. The giver is not obliged to follow these - but should they reach a place of care and wanting to give - they now know what the receiver needs / likes. ⚙️ Sharing of feelings during the massage from the giver / receiver / both.
🌸 Sexuality
Unless otherwise discussed, I assume the massage is completely platonic. This is an intimate practice - sexual activation is normal. I breathe, pause or stop depending on the level of activation. I expect you to do the same.
❗Boundaries
✅ Naked massage.
✅ Light sensual touch if it comes from a place of care.
⛔ Genital touch.
⛔ Sensual touch if it comes from a place of sexual activation.
⛔ Touch with excessive force.
🦖 Preferences / Nice-to-know
- I’m okay with music.
- I prefer giving massage while (partly) sitting on you on a yoga mat / mattress on the floor.
- I prefer outside in nature. Open to host or to be hosted.
- I like if the giver uses a lot of oil.
- I have quite a few towels.
- I did about 50 exchanges in my life.
- I live in Amsterdam and kind of need the massage to be logistically feasible.
- I generally don’t like (small) talk while either giving or receiving. This is because it takes me 10 minutes or so to even start feeling my body and any verbal cue takes me away from this focus and I have to start over again. Ofcourse functional talk & boundary establishment are still welcome.